The Holistic Life: Living as a Whole Person

When we hear the word “holistic” many of us automatically assume this alternative way of life as outlandish and against the norm. And, if we’re completely honest, it kind of is. It’s a completely different way of doing things than how we’ve been used to doing them for years and years. But in all honesty, it’s the way we were always meant to live. 

The word “holistic” means “the comprehension of the parts of something as intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole”. In other words, it takes into account the whole being of something that cannot be explained separately. 

When I think of this word and it’s meaning, I think of how we have strayed far from this idea of living interconnectedly. Our mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and relational needs, when working together, connect us to a whole and healed life that flourishes and invites others into that same interconnected wholeness. One part, literally, cannot function without the other. 

So how do “normal” people live a life that’s holistic without feeling like they have to raise chickens in their backyard? It’s really not as complicated or scary as you might think.

Things to remember when beginning to incorporate a holistic lifestyle, is to first get the idea of perfection out of your head. It’s all about progress, not perfection. Whether you’re crawling, walking or running, any and all forward motion gets you ahead. It’s not a competition or a race. We all arrive at our goals at different paces and it’s ok. Set realistic goals for yourself by making them small and attainable. Don’t overhaul your life in one week. You’re sure to crash and burn and continue putting off those healthy habits you want to implement into your lifestyle. 

MIND
The mind is a beautiful, powerful and complicated thing. When it comes to creating a holistic mindset, we start by clearing it out of the junk we’ve allowed to invade it. This means setting boundaries, changing our thought patterns, filling our mind with good, and learning new things to keep it sharp. Caring for the mind means supporting your mental and emotional health. For some that means seeing a therapist weekly, for others it means participating in workshops or support groups that challenge our thinking. Mental health isn’t something to be scared of. It should be something we embrace, because when our mental stability is compromised, so goes the rest of our whole person being. 

BODY
The body is also an intricate force. If we don’t move it, we lose it. And if we don’t nourish it with healthy foods, our bodies begin to deteriorate. We invest in the things that are important to us.  And the bottom line is, if we can’t find the time or resources to take care of or bodies now to keep them healthy and strong, we’ll have to find the time and money later to invest in our bodies when we are sick and dying. It’s pretty easy to fall into the mental pattern of “I’m too busy to exercise” or “this __ (food, supplements, essential oils, gym membership, class, etc) is too expensive.” Guess what? Any physical ailment that is preventable is expensive, it’s inconvenient, it’s painful and hurts not only you, but also the ones you love.

EMOTIONAL
If it’s one thing people hate, it’s their emotions. Rarely do we know what to do with them, and many of us have been taught to suppress them because they were too much for others to handle or inappropriate to display to others. The funny thing about emotions is that we need them to help us gauge how we’re doing. Feelings tell the story of what’s going on inside of us. We should never make any decisions based off of our feelings, however, we must pay attention to what our bodies are telling us through our emotions, feel what we are feeling in the moment, and move forward. Taking a deeper look into how we feel tells us the condition of our heart, and our emotions, when handled correctly, can be a beautiful part of our holistic life journey. 

SPIRITUAL
Spirituality is different for everyone. Whether you believe in God, the Universe, an energy force, or the Higher Power of your understanding, most of us can conclude that there is something bigger than ourselves. Spirituality has nothing to do with a particular religion, (although many people find their spiritual connectedness through the means of a particular religious group) but has to do with the soul. For some of us, it’s something we feel, and not something that can be put into words. When our soul and spirit are connected to it’s source, we find a deeper meaning to life all together. We can find our spiritual connections in so many ways. Some use prayer and meditation, while others enjoy connecting with their Higher Power in nature, through music, participating in yoga, deep breathing, artistic outlets, and the list goes on. There is not one way to connect to your spirit. Because we’re all created uniquely, we also connect to our soul and spirit in unique ways as well. 

RELATIONAL
When we choose to be in relationship with others, we are choosing to share in some level of vulnerability. A holistic relationships look like two people knowing they are imperfect, who are open to feedback, who appreciate honesty, and who take care of themselves before trying to meet the needs of others. Individuals who prioritize self-care are individuals who thrive in relationship with others. When you encounter someone who has not loved themselves enough to work on their personal well-being, your heart will often warn you of the red flags. And when you’re moving forward in your wheel-house of self-care, you’re more likely to attract those who are as well.  

As you begin to take steps into a holistic lifestyle, remember that it's all about intention, planning, and giving yourself grace for the journey. Start with one thing and then slowly implement the next thing. As you take small steps to your healing, you will find that it will become easier to incorporate new healthy habits. We don't all have it figured out, but together we can encourage one another in this journey. 

Finding Peace in Pain

If there is one thing that is inevitable in life, it’s pain. Whether it be physical, emotional pain or both, the one thing we can all agree on is that any kind of pain experienced sucks, for lack of a better word.

Emotional and physical pain have been very much at the forefront of my life the past several months. And although some days are better than others, I’m constantly reminded in some way of just how hard pain is to endure.

As painful and completely devastating as life has been, I have found a quiet peace through it all. The questions surrounding my circumstance still remain with no answers insight. And while solutions are still being sought out, the one thing that I choose to hold onto is my peace. The process of allowing peace to take over in moments where I feel completely powerless has surprisingly brought me to a place of complete freedom and has allowed me to let go of the unknown, even if it’s just a moment at a time.

Going through the trials of life is something we all face. No one is exempt from its grip, however, we are in control of how we respond to it. If you’re going through difficulty, I encourage you to find what brings you peace.

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I think it is safe to say that when we experience hardship in life, they seem to all come at once. Sometimes it feels like when one more thing can’t possibly go wrong, life says “just one more blow” and you find yourself passed out on the floor for fear of one more thing to brace yourself for.

Some things that can be helpful during these difficult times are also some of the simplest actions to take.

  • Quiet your mind. Find an activity that allows you space to put the junk aside for a second and just be. This can be physical activity, creative outlets, or literally sitting or lying down quietly on a yoga mat with calming music and essential oils. This looks different for everyone. Find what works best for you and implement it daily, or multiple times a day if you’re able to.
  • Find community. Having supportive friends and family is a wonderful thing. I personally don’t know how I could get through some of the hard stuff without the closeness of some dear friends and family members. But be sure that whomever you decide to let into your world can also help carry your burden with you. Someone who is trusted, loyal, and honest. Sometimes out of desperation for anyone to hear us out, we can unintentionally open up to the wrong people. Be mindful of who you allow into your space and who you want carrying your burdens with you.
  • Get help. I know, I know, you’re probably all thinking “of course you’re going to tell us to see a counselor. You are one!”. And you’re right! Although not every situation merits going to see a therapist, I am going to encourage you to reach out to a professional when the pain lasts longer than you think it should, when it's too much to bear, or when you find yourself reacting in unhealthy ways. As much as our family and friends want to help us during difficult times, they all also have a bias toward you (or against you depending on the situation). Having a neutral person to share your heart with can bring a wealth of insight you otherwise wouldn’t get on your own or just with those who are part of your life. Getting help can mean finding a professional counselor or even a support group to help you sort through the pain you’re facing.

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Your journey is uniquely yours. Only you know what you truly need. And it's totally okay to try a few different self-care avenues. Maybe your journey starts with something as simple as journaling. Or perhaps you venture out of your comfort zone and try out a yoga class. You may just discover something you never thought you knew you would love. There’s no right or wrong way to begin finding what works for you, the important thing is that you start somewhere.

Although all these things together do not eliminate pain and heartache from our lives completely, they are helpful tools to get you moving in the right direction. Even baby steps move you forward in healing, and it is certainly okay to take it slow in our healing and recovery journey. 

As I head to my quiet place to take my baby steps toward my own healing, I invite you to do the same with me, and to ask yourself "How can I bring peace to my situation today?". 

Why I Chose to be a Counselor

I often get asked what I do and why I chose to be a professional counselor. My attempt at answering that question is usually longer than the person asking wants to hear, so I’ll try to make this short and sweet.

As a child I never knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. All I ever knew was that I liked helping my friends with their problems and comforting them when they were sad. I didn’t figure it out till I was 21, as a single mom of an almost one year old at the time, and floundering through some community college courses. 

Through lots of prayer and some crazy events, I felt led into a helping profession, which ultimately led to earning my bachelor’s in psychology from Liberty University, and my master’s in counseling from UTSA.  

When asked “why this?”, I honestly don’t have a very profound answer and all I can say is 1) I know this is what God called me to and 2) I wanted to show love and compassion to those who were hurting and felt alone like I had experienced at different pivotal points in my own life.

Although each aspect of my profession always have their place, and the more clinical side of therapy is of the upmost importance to me (because, if it weren’t, we’d be in some trouble), being a therapist, to me, isn’t always about diagnosing people, analyzing their life and problems, or using big, fancy, clinical words (as you can clearly see in my writing). For me, being a therapist is all about, and will always be about the people I am privileged to come in contact with. Showing grace for their journey when others can’t, or when they are unable to extend that same grace to themselves.

I don’t take this responsibility lightly and strive to carry what each person brings with the upmost care. Though the complicated stuff I learned in school, at expensive trainings and fancy seminars are vitally important to effectively helping my clients, it would all mean nothing if I couldn't connect with each one as a person. 

Despite our diagnoses, dysfunctions, traumas, addictions, pain, and suffering, we are all just people who want to be seen, known, heard, understood and loved, and that’s what I get to humbly do each day.

Welcome!

Hey friends!  

How exciting to start my very first blog with you all. I'm thrilled to be on this journey with you as we navigate all of life's many ups and downs. 

I'm an LPC-Intern in San Antonio, TX. My heart is to walk with people through their journey of healing from trauma of abuse, neglect, and painful life experiences. I do this by incorporating a holistic approach to therapy which includes integrating our mind, body and spirit through more than just traditional talk therapy. 

I invite you to join me as we build this community together of support and love.